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Ways To Help Friends Cope With Cancer - 10/23/2008 10:07:01 PM
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raspberry331
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I didn't know where to post this,so please feel free to move it where it belongs. I have a few friends that have cancer and I want to try and help them as much as possible through their difficult times. Besides prayers and sending cards,what are some other clever ways of reaching out to them?
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RE: Ways To Help Friends Cope With Cancer - 10/24/2008 1:11:27 AM
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WaitingforBoaz
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ORIGINAL: raspberry331
I didn't know where to post this,so please feel free to move it where it belongs. I have a few friends that have cancer and I want to try and help them as much as possible through their difficult times. Besides prayers and sending cards,what are some other clever ways of reaching out to them?
Hi Raspberry,
I have been through this, My husband had brain cancer, so I really appreciate you wanting to be there for your friends.
1. Many times Radiation or Chemo can deplete their energy. You could help them by running errands, doing yard work or straightening up around the house.
2. It is important that a cancer patient eat healthy foods, but they usually take quite a bit of preparation. Making healthy meals for them would be great. Be sure to ask if there are special restrictions or special foods they enjoy.
3. If they have children, take them for a couple of hours on chemo or radiation day. They may feel very tired and naucious and they could really use the rest.
4. Take them out to just have fun. Don't talk about the cancer unless they bring it up and try to just add some life to a very difficult time.
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RE: Ways To Help Friends Cope With Cancer - 10/24/2008 11:59:05 PM
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OneJohn410
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Hi,
Waiting's #4 was what I was going to post on. They know they have cancer, You know it. Talking about it all the time won't bore it and make it run off. I would converse with them as you would anyone else, and I'd also ask them from time to time if there was anything they'd like me to pray with them about.
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RE: Ways To Help Friends Cope With Cancer - 10/26/2008 8:57:20 PM
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One of my best friends is a breast cancer survivor and another friend just recently lost her 23 year old daughter to breast cancer as well.
My friend who lost her daughter is the Art teacher at the school my younger three children attend. The cancer took it's tole on S., my friend. She missed SO many days of school, and really wasn't there fully when she was there physically, not all the time really. One of the things that the other teachers, students, parents and staff did for her that really helped was that there was ALWAYS a volunteer helping out in her classroom that KNEW the kids and the classroom setup and the projects the kids were working on when she had to have a sub so she could attend to her daughter's treatment and just be with her.
My other friend is now 10 years out from her cancer. She says the best thing folks ever did for her, even better then cards and meals and taking the kids was to not treat her as if she was sick all the time. She KNEW she was ill, but like with most cancers she had good days and bad days and on the good days she just wanted to be treated as if she was just as healthy as you or I. I don't know how many times I would just drive by her house and grab the older two children and just take them out for ice cream when she was going through treatment. Often had to fight with a lot of other folks as well as she had a great support system set up! My husband and her husband became good friends through this too as he (her husband) often times just needed someone to unload on and my husband was able to fill that need.
Family members often need as much support as the person dealing with the cancer.
Blessings,
Garsy
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RE: Ways To Help Friends Cope With Cancer - 10/26/2008 10:37:50 PM
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Great thread! I didn't have cancer, but was terribly sick and bedridden for a few years. What was most devastating to me was that almost EVERYBODY left and when I did see someone, they were afraid to mention it (we thought I would die, Drs had 'sent me home') and would essentially ignore me. ONE person just stayed by me as a friend. She would visit often and tell me what was going on in the world and that was a major thing that kept me going. She always had a positive attitude and wasn't afraid to laugh with me - and usually made me laugh which was priceless in the midst of all that blah.
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RE: Ways To Help Friends Cope With Cancer - 10/27/2008 12:18:25 PM
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PopsiLufsJesus
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Great thread! I didn't have cancer, but was terribly sick and bedridden for a few years. What was most devastating to me was that almost EVERYBODY left and when I did see someone, they were afraid to mention it (we thought I would die, Drs had 'sent me home') and would essentially ignore me. ONE person just stayed by me as a friend. She would visit often and tell me what was going on in the world and that was a major thing that kept me going. She always had a positive attitude and wasn't afraid to laugh with me - and usually made me laugh which was priceless in the midst of all that blah.
Awwwh PJ! I'm soo glad you came through. God is good!
As far as the thread is concerned, I would say what PJ's friend did was one of the best ways to be there for someone.
Comfort: to come along side someone...
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RE: Ways To Help Friends Cope With Cancer - 10/27/2008 1:53:10 PM
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raspberry331
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Thank-you all for your wonderful posts.
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