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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 6:29:55 PM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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I posted over there, but I'll post it here as well, Christine . . . basically, I have no idea.
I would ask someone in the HR about your name being different from your SS card.
Hey y'all . . .
I don't know if I have a prayer request, a mild rant or what. LOL
I kinda figured it would happen eventually, and I thought I was prepared for it . . .
I ran into someone a while ago, and she immediately started asking nosey questions about CS.
I tried to subtly deflect her questions and change the topic, but that didn't work.
So . . . since being polite didn't work, I smiled at her and told her "that" was a private matter, and that I really didn't want to talk about it. I started to say goodbye . . .
. . . but, she then changed the subject . . . to other nosey questions; the subjects of which are, again, not any of her business.
So I took a deep breath, smiled at her, said goodbye and walked away.
I have no qualms about what I did; my personal business is just that; not anyone else's. I don't have to answer to anyone nor do I have to explain anything to anyone - unless I specifically choose to do so.
But, I am a bit surprised at my reaction. My heart sunk when she asked the first question.
Certain people are probably always going to be nosey gossips. And that's really their burden to carry; not mine.
I spent all of last year working through some things with Our Lord; and that was definitely one of them.
I guess I do have a prayer request, afterall.
Please pray that I won't let people get to me; I don't want to live my life based on how goofy busy-bodies live their lives.
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 6:53:56 PM
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Some people wouldn't know a polite change of subject if it was written in big red letters. They need a verbal slap up the side of the head. Like--I really do not care to discuss this with you. That should do it--it may hurt their feelings--which is kinda odd since they have no respect for the feelings of others.
I think you handled it very well--much nicer then I would have--After all I am the DivaBrat.
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 7:00:34 PM
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I've never been one to be very... umm... subtle. There are people that ask me about my experiences in combat, and I say, "I'd rather not discuss that." Anything else gets met with that same statement. After that's been proven not to work, I say, "If you consider me a friend you won't be bringing up a topic that so obviously makes me uncomfortable. If you continue, I'm going to have to wonder if you consider me a friend at all."
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 7:10:31 PM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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"One thing I know for certain- CS wouldn't want me to have to deal with difficult conversations like this, so please bear with me as I don't answer your questions." I love this! 
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After all I am the DivaBrat. LOL! 
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I've never been one to be very... umm... subtle. There are people that ask me about my experiences in combat, and I say, "I'd rather not discuss that." Anything else gets met with that same statement. After that's been proven not to work, I say, "If you consider me a friend you won't be bringing up a topic that so obviously makes me uncomfortable. If you continue, I'm going to have to wonder if you consider me a friend at all."
That's just it, James. In our minds, friends don't even think to do that.
In my particular case this afternoon, this woman is not what I would consider a friend; I simply know who she is.
{{{Cranky}}}, {{{DivaB}}} and {{{James}}} . . . thank you all so much.
In my imagined ideal world, no one would ever even think of asking nosey, insensitive and inappropriate questions.
But then, in the real world when they do, I'm always a bit taken aback.
And, then I have to quickly work through this conflict I have with myself that yes, I do have a right to establish boundaries and that no, it isn't rude to do so.
I tell people this all the time (about setting boundaries) . . . because I really do believe it.
But sometimes, when it's up-close and personal, it catches me off guard and I have to remember to remind myself of that very philosophy.
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 7:15:05 PM
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I can't thank you enough. He's back in the hospital with more infection. I'm afraid he's going to wind up losing the whole leg at this point.
Oh Bill, I'm so sorry. 
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"One thing I know for certain- CS wouldn't want me to have to deal with difficult conversations like this, so please bear with me as I don't answer your questions."
Good answer Cranky.
Sharon-Marie, I think you handled it well. I also hope and believe it will get easier with time (if indeed it does happen again). It's the first time that's the hardest. You know it will be coming but you never know when. Now it's over and you will be more prepared. Does that make sense?
I am still sick as a dog. I got sick the first part of October, Linz and I went to the dr the same day, she cleared up after a week but here I am, hanging onto it. I have some sort of sinus thing but the cough is really really bad, so bad my chest hurts from it. They did a chest xray too to see if I have pneumonia or something. I told Linz she either couldn't go to play practice tonight or would have to find a ride, as I'm just too sick to drive and wanted to take my medicine, which the dr said would knock me out. (I'm still waiting for that to happen!) But I'm sure it's affected me enough I shouldn't drive. The house is a pit but I just don't care. I'll deal with it tomorrow.
RE:work, I used to get up at 6:40 to be to work by 7. I hate mornings.  I did much better when I went on the 3-11 shift.
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 7:24:17 PM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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Sharon-Marie, I think you handled it well. I also hope and believe it will get easier with time (if indeed it does happen again). It's the first time that's the hardest. You know it will be coming but you never know when. Now it's over and you will be more prepared. Does that make sense? Kath, yes it does. When I lived in Jackson before last year, I was being bombarded by nosey gossips. It was really overwhelming. But today, was the first time since I've been back that I have experienced it. So yes, I'm hoping that I'll be more prepared for when it happens again . . . and I hope the timing isn't in the near future.
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I am still sick as a dog. I got sick the first part of October, Linz and I went to the dr the same day, she cleared up after a week but here I am, hanging onto it. I have some sort of sinus thing but the cough is really really bad, so bad my chest hurts from it. They did a chest xray too to see if I have pneumonia or something. I told Linz she either couldn't go to play practice tonight or would have to find a ride, as I'm just too sick to drive and wanted to take my medicine, which the dr said would knock me out. (I'm still waiting for that to happen!) But I'm sure it's affected me enough I shouldn't drive. The house is a pit but I just don't care. I'll deal with it tomorrow. {{{Kath}}} It's almost been 6 weeks that you've been sick with this! That's such a long time.
I'm praying for a complete and quick recovery.
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 7:39:32 PM
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I'm debating on whether to go and try to eat something. Tummy has been upset for 2 days and I've eaten very little. I'm starting to feel a little dry.
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 7:41:22 PM
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Can you do something like a light soup?
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 7:44:04 PM
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Tried that earlier and it made me feel very sick.
Thinking about perhaps a greasy cheeseburger --- just kidding!!! Perhaps some toast and tea.
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RE: 2008 - Ramblin' Who Knows Where with Shar-Mar - 11/18/2008 7:47:23 PM
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Well, I'm going to go and try to eat. Talk to you folks later. Take care and be blessed!
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Christine 
Praying for you. 
I am hoping this medicine will help. It's got both the cough suppressant in it and hydrocodone (sp).
