Login  | |
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/20/2008 1:44:21 PM
|
|
|
Sideways
Posts: 3942
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: online
|
Jennifer, I hope you get all the time you need. I have a huge list of major chores that I would like to do when someone is around to help with Nathan.
And... you're gonna laugh, but I have a gift certificate for a day spa I received on my birthday in June, and I still haven't used it. Greg is taking off the whole week of Thanksgiving, so he encouraged me to use it now rather then wait (they have services for preggo ladies). So, I just got off the phone with them, and I'm going in Wednesday. How very productive of me.  
Since we're having our Thanksgiving on Friday, and dH and I are splitting duties with SIL, I just have to make sure I have all the ingredients this weekend, and we have an extra day to cook and clean.
dH is making the turkey
I am making some fancy non-alchoholic drinks and all deserts
SIL is making the side dishes
Helps to spread the work around. 
_____________________________
This warranty does not include shark bites, bear attacks and children under five.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/20/2008 1:53:33 PM
|
|
|
Sideways
Posts: 3942
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: online
|
When is moving day again, Nicole?
_____________________________
This warranty does not include shark bites, bear attacks and children under five.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/20/2008 5:57:36 PM
|
|
|
Consecrated2God
Posts: 5149
Joined: 4/4/2005
From: Formerly Jesus Land
Status: online
|
I put my foot down all the time. Not in a bossy way, of course, but sometimes the mother is the one that knows best when it comes to the children.
_____________________________
Bonky
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/20/2008 7:06:39 PM
|
|
|
Sideways
Posts: 3942
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: online
|
Greg and I are fine. He's a bit disappointed that a meeting was scheduled at work on Monday and he was planning on the whole week off, but such is life.
_____________________________
This warranty does not include shark bites, bear attacks and children under five.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/20/2008 10:11:24 PM
|
|
|
gratefulforgrace
Posts: 242
Joined: 4/11/2005
From: Near Spokane Washington
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: Consecrated2God
I put my foot down all the time. Not in a bossy way, of course, but sometimes the mother is the one that knows best when it comes to the children.
I agree. There are just things I know about Helen and Chris doesn't...not because he isn't involved, believe me, he is, I'm just with her all day every day. I know her better because I'm with her more. So, sometimes I do know best in some circumstances.
_____________________________
Proud Follower of Christ
Wife of Chris
Mother of Helen and #2 due March 23!
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/21/2008 11:23:40 AM
|
|
|
Mrs.X
Posts: 2947
Joined: 7/7/2005
From: Newberg, OR
Status: offline
|
Jennifer, Sarah just blogged the other day about her new hairdo. She's probably a busy lady with little Justice. I think she said he needs to be held a lot.
_____________________________
-Stina
From Sweet Grass to the Packin' House
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. -Proverbs 15:1
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/21/2008 3:29:47 PM
|
|
|
Mrs.Wifey
Posts: 4872
Joined: 4/12/2005
From: The Gorgeous plains of Colorado
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: ChelseaRae
Someone on one of the blogs I read linked to this article on SAHMhood and I really liked it. I thought you ladies might like it too!
I just have to say...wow. What a fantastic thing for me to read today, on the heals of Micah and I discussing when I am going to come back to being home full time(I think he secretly likes it). I love this part-
quote:
Get Going:
~ You are not a STAY at home anything. You are a woman on the move, a woman on journey. You are in perpetual spiritual pilgrimage. You are following your Master, your children traipsing behind. Everyday you are packing up and leaving behind one spiritual, emotional, physical time and space…..you are growing, your children are growing, your role in His Kingdom is growing….and at day’s end, you are somewhere very different. In a different heart space, in a different time space, in a different spiritual space. Take it seriously. You are not stagnantly staying anywhere. You are leading your children towards the Promise Land. Don’t get side-tracked, don’t laze about, don’t linger behind….God is moving before you, the Cloud is guiding you----Pack up and follow!
Ruth, sometimes the foot being put down has to happen. I am typically the softer parent...
We had a good morning, got up early and got dressed. Well, not much earlier then on my school days, but today we went to the mall with a friend and her triplets. She had some items on hold at Old Navy, we swang by there and picked them up. I also found some great deals on jeans for Gabby, she has had a major height growth spurt and her capri's are now quite capri like, lol. Then we took the kids to Burger King, at lunch and chatted while they ran around and played in the Play Place. Now Gabby is napping and I'm vegging before work.
Hope ya'll are having good days!
_____________________________
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/21/2008 5:11:57 PM
|
|
|
Sideways
Posts: 3942
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: online
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: Mrs.Wifey
Ruth, sometimes the foot being put down has to happen. I am typically the softer parent...
This has gotten me curious enough to pose a question in parenting about the dynamics in different families.
Ryanne, I didn't know that you were considering coming home full time.
My day has been ok. I got some work done, but it's getting cold here, and Nathan and I went out twice, but didn't stay out for long. He tolerates his winter coat, but still isn't taking to well to hats and gloves. I don't have a preggo winter coat, so I just have to layer up.
_____________________________
This warranty does not include shark bites, bear attacks and children under five.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/21/2008 5:14:44 PM
|
|
|
Mrs.Wifey
Posts: 4872
Joined: 4/12/2005
From: The Gorgeous plains of Colorado
Status: offline
|
We are only considering it because Micah is going back to school in the spring. I'll continue piddling away at my bachelors pre-reqs for nursing school, but I won't go full time. Unless I work during the day it's just not feasible for me to work+Micah to go to school as far as Gabby's care goes. We would never see each other, and that would be awfully lonely and very bad for our relationship. We thrive when we are around each other frequently.
_____________________________
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/22/2008 12:16:25 PM
|
|
|
Sideways
Posts: 3942
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: online
|
*sigh* So, I was about to read Nathan his stories before bed, but Greg was nearby and Nathan physically pushed me away and said "no, no". So, now daddy is reading him his naptime stories. I know daddy is more fun, and he's just a toddler, but sometimes I wonder if I'm just a nanny to him. It does sting a little.
_____________________________
This warranty does not include shark bites, bear attacks and children under five.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/22/2008 12:23:54 PM
|
|
|
Consecrated2God
Posts: 5149
Joined: 4/4/2005
From: Formerly Jesus Land
Status: online
|
I think daddies are special. We moms get to do so much of the nurturing and we get to be with them all day and feed them and bathe them and dress them, and we have a nurturing bond, but Dad is like a superstar to kids. My kids enjoy going shopping with me, but going with Dad is a real treat. I remember feeling that way as a kid, too. I don't remember exactly why I felt that way, but I remember the feeling.
_____________________________
Bonky
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/22/2008 12:40:12 PM
|
|
|
Sideways
Posts: 3942
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: online
|
And he does still have a limited vocabulary, a limited ability to express himself. It's not like he can say "I would rather daddy read me the stories today."
_____________________________
This warranty does not include shark bites, bear attacks and children under five.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/22/2008 12:46:23 PM
|
|
|
manda59
Posts: 6187
Joined: 9/22/2005
From: Hampshire, UK
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: Sideways
Things have taken a decided Matriarchal turn in my household, and while I don't think that's entirely healthy, it must be done.
Greg has taken to letting Nathan snap his baby fingers and making daddy do what Nathan wants on several issues. This morning at 4:45am, Nathan wanted daddy to come into his room and lie down next to the crib, which Greg sometimes does over my objections. Nathan is not sick, he just likes daddy to lie down next to him. (It's been an ongoing issue.)
I got up and stopped Greg in the hall and said "No, this can't go on. Turn around" and Greg did. He's still recovering and was to sick and tired to object. Greg doesn't need to be sleeping on a cold, hard floor, and I have personal objections to the idea of sitting with a child till they fall asleep (I'm not saying anything about parents who do, it's just me). I made sure Nathan wasn't cold, sick, thirsty or freaked over a nightmare. We never just let him cry without at least checking on him. I settled him back down, then left when he was awake.
I think you did exactly the right thing. If you don't nip this in the bud now, it could set up habits that will be even harder to break once Elizabeth arrives. I don't have any qualms at all about knowing best sometimes (only sometimes?  ) and making sure it happens. I don't see our home as either matriarchal or patriarchal - we share leadership and responsibility, and sometimes I know best and sometimes Dave does. It's just how it goes.
Especially with Elizabeth about to make her appearance , and even though he is still a toddler himself, Nathan may well need to start growing up a little, and be encouraged to be a bit more independent. If Greg happens to be away again, and you have both children to care for on your own, what are you supposed to do if Elizabeth needs a feed, or a cuddle, and Nathan right at that moment wants someone to come into his room and lie down with him? You did the right thing, Ruth.
_____________________________
"Manda is right"
mvic, January 2009
|
|
|
|
|
RE: SAHM/W Support & Encouragement ~5! - 11/22/2008 3:34:15 PM
|
|
|
nicole6598
Posts: 3823
Status: offline
|
hi everyone
Back home now!! Had a horrid 4 hour drive with the kids, and when I got in the house it looked like someone had tried to rob us but left everything!! The kitchen is amazing though!! It isn't quite done, hubby has some painting to finish off, but he has done a wonderful job, I love it!! now to all the unpacking and cleaning, boy oh boy my husband can make a horrid mess in 2 weeks!!
_____________________________
Proud Aussie, Wife, Mother, Woman!
|
|
|
|
 New Messages |
 No New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/ New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/o New Messages |
 Locked w/ New Messages |
 Locked w/o New Messages |
|
 Post New Thread
Reply to Message
Post New Poll
Submit Vote
Delete My Own Post
Delete My Own Thread
Rate Posts |
|
|
Forum Tools
Printable Version
**25****30****35****40 
